Responding to Comments

I just want to thank everyone for taking the time to answer some of those questions. Those two questions about Date Guy Matt and my friend (Jeffrey) breaking up were more questions for myself to find out and ponder. But I definitely thought through all of your responses to the other questions and I think it has really helped me make a decision about this guy.

HCI: Shouldn't him being Jeffrey's ex affect things? I mean, would you want your friend dating your ex? That just keeps going through my head. Or is that not that big of a deal anymore? I really don't know. And I guess I would have to ask Jeffrey. BUT, he's still in Paris and hardly ever gets online. Oh.. and the other thing.. he doesn't know I'm gay yet.. That creates a problem...

Gay Snowboarder: I tend to stress over guys, don't I? That's bad... You're right that not too much energy should be wasted on him... but he's just some damn HOT though. It's hard to get over that.

James: It's in my nature to forgive people. I hardly ever hold a grudge... He really should've called or contacted me in SOME way. But at least he did apologize afterwards, right?

Midori: You're totally right... I made it too big of a deal. Again, I tend to do that a lot. Perhaps, in the future, I need to just calm down more and not stress over it and blow it out of proportion. And yes, shelving him as a possible friend/date sounds like a good idea. I don't think I should put too much stock in this guy.

Aron: A little obsessive? What made you think that? lol. And I will try to detach myself from any expectations. Thank you for that advice.

E: Haha... simple and succinct. Thanks.

AJ: Yeah - he SHOULD make it up to me! So we'll see how it goes.

Steevo: Flakes.... hate them. Unless they're Frosted Flakes... in which case they're G-R-R-R-EAT!

Joshua: I think you hit the nail on the head about how him being Jeffrey's ex affects things. And I seriously wouldn't know if Jeffrey would approve or not. There's just so many "what ifs" to this situation!

Barry: (From Yahoo chat) He definitely does owe me... so you're right in telling me not to go out of my way to chat with him. And yeah, why didn't he message me sooner? What IS he trying to avoid?

So I really want to thank you guys for commenting and giving me your advice.
My Decision: I'm going to STOP initiating contact with him. If he wants to talk to me, then he'll message me. If he does, then I will talk to him and see where it goes. And he definitely would have to make up for standing me up some how. For now, I will try not to let my knowledge of him being Jeffrey's ex affect me. I think we'll cross that bridge when we get to it. If he doesn't contact me, then whatever... his loss, I guess. I mean, it's going to be hard to just stop contacting him because he's seriously the hottest guy that's ever paid any attention to me, but what good is he if he's not into me?

I'm glad I've made this decision and even more thankful that I had you guys to help me through it. All you guys are THE BEST! :)