So Matty just left. But we had a nice 2.5 days.
After our dinner on the first night, we played some Nintendo Wii. We had actually started playing the Wii last night after dinner. We started with Mario Kart. It was fun, but it was starting to get a little tense with the competition... so I suggested a different game. And when he saw "Marvel Ultimate Alliance", his eyes lit up. lol. So we played that for the rest of the night. I think we must have played 5 hours before we went to bed.
The next morning, we woke up next to each other, with him playing with my hard-on. It was fun, to say the least, to get jacked off when waking up. ;) Then, we had a real low key day. We met up with two of his friends for lunch at one of my favorite sushi restaurants. I was hesitant to meet his friends, but that's cuz I'm really anti-social. But, it turned out real well. We just chatted and it wasn't awkward. They were really nice people and it was cool to hang out with them.
Afterwards, Matty and I came back to my apartment and we continued to play Marvel. We did that for the rest of the night. lol. We made cookies when we got hungry, but we didn't actually eat a real dinner. We played until 1am. And we beat the game! WOOO! LOL. It was real fun. At the very end, we decided to put in a few cheat codes just to make it a little more fun. HEHE.
We then took a shower together, and we had a little fun in there. I really do love showers. ;)
This morning, we went to ramen together. He tried a new ramen and didn't like it as much as last time. But he paid for me this time. Very sweet of him. Only thing that bothered me about today was that he kept asking me to speak Cantonese. I forgot how we got on that topic, but I told him I was born in Hong Kong. And he wanted me to speak it. But it's one of my BIGGEST pet peeves to have someone ask me to speak Cantonese. I don't know why... it just bothers me a lot. And the more someone asks me, the more I won't want to do it. And he just kept asking me and I didn't like that. I asked him to stop asking me and finally he did. But do you guys have a weird pet peeve like that? If you don't, then I guess you wouldn't understand.. but it REALLY REALLY bothers me.
So you all must be wondering... what's the verdict on Matty. Well... I think that he's looking for more than what I'm looking for. I think that we've actually moved a little too quickly for my tastes. Both times he has stayed over more than a day. It's just a lot of time to spend with someone you're just trying to get to know right now. And though he's a sweet boy and I could tell he tried to be less pessimistic about stuff (for example: he caught himself when he wanted to say "I hate my life."), but it was the fact that he had to catch himself because he WAS going to say it... it just turns me off.
And also being with his friends, I can tell that he has a lot of drama surrounding him and his friends and I try to stay away from drama as much as possible. I'm sure he's not causing the drama, but if drama follows him, then I'm not sure I want to be around that.
So I guess I'm saying that Matty would be a really good friend to have, I don't think much more will come from it. I just have to find a way to let him know how I feel about it. Any suggestions on how to have "the talk" with him?
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tell him the truth and the sooner the better if that is how you feel. it is not good to prolong things like this because you could end up hurting him you yourself more. but if your say your going to try and stay friends you should do that.
it's good that the two of you had a nice time though.
jay.osa
Video games are great, I should play more of them (except I have no time >.<).
I find it annoying if someone asks me to speak Mandarin (or attempt to speak Cantonese, as I can really only understand it and not speak it). I never know what to say, and it comes out sounding incredibly awkward and stupid, lol.
I think you should just tell him how you feel, how it feels like he wants more and you don't, and you just don't feel like you're on the same page as him. Tell him you'd still like to be friends with him, if that's what you want for now.
You're not a monkey, and therefore you shouldn't be asked to perform Cantonese per request.
As for Matty, I think I'll email you my perception. After typing it out on here it seems a bit too harsh sounding and personal for your blog.
I'll email it to you. Hope you got my last email too - Barry
I think you should be completely honest with Matty and just say ho you feel. You say you don't like drama so need to lead him on or drag out the situation you know what I mean.
If he is really mature then he will be able to stay your friend and maybe even with benifits and if he is not mature then he will just blow up and leave you alone for good. Either way, you owe to yourself to tell him right away!
Yeah, be honest. If he ends up liking you very much then you run the risk of hurting him. Be honest.
Maybe it's just me, but I find foreign language ability hot as fuck. I mean it's really a turn on to me, which is funny cause I don't like being put on the spot with speaking Spanish. My bosses often ask me to translate for some customer and often I want to say "I don't get paid to interpret." As we don't get many French speakers in the store I'm never asked to use my [very bad] French.
HAHAHA "I'm really anti-social" hahaha
I don't know why I find that funny. Well, being anti-social is FAR better than being socially retarded. At least antisocial people know they're antisocial; socially retarded people think they're super social but really they're just socially retarded.
I think as for "the talk", I agree with everyone else when they said be honest (honestly, I didn't really read everyone's comments, I just saw "be honest" and I was like "yep").
But I think you should be honest only if you're intent on having that talk with him. Sure you got a large dose of him because you've spent a lot of time with him, but I think it's a lot easier to criticize and judge and find what you don't like about him than it is to find what you do like, and what you could help him expand on to actually make a relationship.
In no way am I suggesting that Matty is the only guy you'll ever get who's this into you because like I've always said--you got a lot going for you and anyone would kill to be yours. Matty feels the same way (most likely), and I personally think you should give him some more before you say no. Because once you say no, it's hard to reverse it. You never know, he might be the one you have a long-term with!
I guess I'm suggesting that you give him another chance, but with a more open mind, and look more at what you like about him instead of what bothers you (his "depression", drama, hyper-competitiveness, strange obsession/fetish with Cantonese, age, etc).
I mean, hell, he can cook! That's gotta count for something...right? And the fact that he's trying to stop saying "i hate my life" shows that he actually cares about what you think.
You never know, you may find something out about him that completely changes your perspective (not saying if it will be in a good way or bad way, but still). I'd say give him at least one more week, and really make an effort to keep an open mind about him.
Sometimes (and I emphasize "sometimes"), the person who sweeps you off your feet isn't who you think it is.
i also hate it when people ask me to translate something in chinese. first of all, what am i, your pet monkey. second of all, i honestly don't know how to say "blowjob" in chinese. sorry.
be done with him and move onto me already.
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