Monday, September 1, 2008

Closure #2

The heart is a very curious thing.

I really thought I had closure, but the more and more I thought about it, it just really didn't give me closure at all. And you're probably going to read this post and you're probably going to ask "What the hell is he doing??" and a part of me is asking the same thing, but the other part, the part that is dictated by my heart, is saying a different thing.

So the email I got from J... long distance relationships didn't work out. But are all long distance relationships doomed? My friend is a perfect example of a great long distance relationship. She met her guy while vacationing in Ireland with her family. Now she lives in California and he lives in Maryland. But they make it work and they're completely in love. You know, they may be the exception to the rule, but the point is that it can happen. And what is to say that it can't happen for J and me? Yes, he's been hurt by two guys due to long distance relationships and it'd be completely hard for him to start another one, but it's just almost unfair that he wouldn't give it a try.

And yes, I wrote him another email. I just laid it all out there. Told him everything that I felt. I told him that he has made a lasting impression on me and that he is just way too great of a guy to pass up on and it would be foolish for me to just simply give up on a relationship without at least trying. I told him that I would be willing to work real hard to be have the privilege to be with him. (oooh damn, I wish I said it like that in the email... damn that 20/20 hindsight!)

Here is what I said at the end:

I hope that you will take time to think about what I've said and reconsider a relationship with me. If you do decide that it'd be too hard, then I will of course respect your decision. But my hope is that I've made enough of an impression on you for you to want to be with me.

"What were you thinking!?"
Well, like I said, I don't want to give up on this without giving it a try. I just couldn't deny what my heart was telling me to do. But now, I really do think that this email will give me the closure that I need. I've said all I wanted to say and if he decides that it'd be too hard, then I'll respect his decision, but this time I know that I tried.

I'm not being unrealistic about it... I just wanted to make sure I got it all out there. And now I have, and now I wait for his response...... again.


Joshua said...

A lot of what I see is that you're doing the waiting and you're feeling incomplete because of him. Why?

You shouldn't be missing out on your life waiting for him to respond. At least, that's what I think. I don't doubt that he made a lasting impression on you, but if he's not willing to enter into a long-distance relationship because of fears from past relationships that carry over to potential future ones (which shouldn't happen), then you shouldn't be the one left waiting.

I don't know you very well. I hope your blog allows me to find out more about you. But I know already that you don't need to be the one waiting--there are HUNDREDS of guys who would be willing to wait for you! And they could be where you live or something on your terms!


Shane said...

I myself am in a long distance relationship, it sucks I'm not going to lie, but it is working out.

To me, it sounds like he did not put as much effort in to maintaining the long distance relationship as he could have..which sucks!

Don't lose hope!