Wednesday, October 22, 2008

J = Jamie

I need help. In more ways than one. But, more specifically, for now, I need help with a decision.

I was going through Facebook yesterday, just browsing through profiles, and I come across J's profile. And since I'm not using initials/nicknames anymore, I can reveal his name to be Jamie. (which makes it so much easier for me because you don't know how many times I've just typed out his name in previous posts and had to catch it later) So I'm just looking through the profile and I got this horrible urge to message him to see how he was doing. I guess I just wanted to hear from him. And I also wanted to see if he would respond. So I wrote a very simple, short message:

Hey, was thinking of you and just wanted to see how you were doing. Hope all is well.

-Doug :)

I wrote it and I sent it. The last that I had heard from him was when I was in Florida, after our awesome date, which was almost a month ago now. Well, tonight, at around 6:30pm, I get an email in my mailbox letting me know that I had a new message from Jamie on Facebook. It reads:

Hey Doug . . . Everything is going well, work is keeping me so busy these days. The fall release slipped into winter and now we are all working overtime into winter. I hope all is well with you.


So he talks about his work a little. He tells me he's very busy. And he hopes all is well with me. I'm not really so sure what to think about this message. I mean, it was GREAT that he responded - and in such a quick manner too! But the message really doesn't say much. It doesn't talk about whether or not he's making a business trip out to California or not, like he had discussed before. Of course, I didn't ask about it either. It also doesn't really encourage me to respond back to him.

So should I respond to him? What should I write if I do respond? Should it be another short message, or should it be longer so that maybe it'd elicit a longer response from him? Should I ask about whether or not he's coming out to California again? I really am not trying to pursue him anymore. I basically just want to stay friends with him because he's an awesome guy that I want to keep in my life. What do I write? Please help me!


naturgesetz said...

Well, he did respond and his message was longer than yours. So he isn't shutting you out.

I would treat his last line as an invitation to say something about how things are going — a highlight or two.

Then a casual question about whether a trip to Cali is a possibility anytime soon.

IOW, longer than his, but still fairly short. See what happens after that.


James said...

Just write back that you're glad to hear from him and that you'll make sure to stay in touch every now and then. Anything else and you'll look desperate. Yeah, I don't think his response is very encouraging for conversation otherwise.

Joshua said...

That's nice, but don't expect anything out of it. Besides, he's not good enough for you!

And are you going to tell your mom?? Because if you are, EMAIL ME EVERYTHING. :)

Jasssoonnn said...

Honestly, y not just write him back. It's not like you are all askin to marry him. lol.

I would just start with something like, "Well im glad to hear that you are doing good. I know work can be..." or whatever.. If he reply's to u more, then u can carry on the convo. If not, then don't worry about it and reminisce another day.