Sunday, July 5, 2009

Advice on Birthday Gift

Hey guys, I need you advice. PLEASE please please comment because I need as much input as possible. And ASAP. So even if you've never read this blog before or never commented before, PLEASE do so now.

So the boy I'm seeing, Jason... his birthday is coming up next Wednesday July 15th. I really want to get him something. The thing is, I'm not sure what to get him because I'm not really sure what we are yet. He's mentioned the words "friends with benefits" which I kind of got a little sad to hear? But he's willing to hang out and stuff, I invited him to go to my friends' 4th of July party with me and he was actually contemplating it.. and I invited him to the circus that's coming in town and he said yes. So... I guess I'm still confused as to what kind of relationship we have. Regardless, I still want to get him a birthday gift.

Now, I've had one person suggest that I get something kinky/sex related. Why? Because a week ago when I stayed over at his place, he tied me up with arm restraints that he had installed on his bed! HEHEHE. Oh and I was blind folded too. OMG, so hot.

But should I get a more traditional birthday gift? Something cheap though... cuz I don't want him to think I'd spend so much money on him when we're just "friends" for now. Something funny, perhaps? He was also telling me about his skydiving and swimming with the dolphins so he's done a lot of cool things. And then he was telling me about his scars and the multiple times he's been to the hospital cuz he's a bit of a daredevil. hehe. So something related to that could be funny? I dunno.. That's why I need your help!

So please please please give me some input! I'll love you forever!! THANKS guys! If there's a group of guys that I know I can count on, it's you guys!!

13 comments:

Aek said...

Hmm, novelty lube and condoms? Dude, glow in the dark condoms, LOL!!

Maybe you could get him a stuffed dolphin (or devil), that might be cute. :P

torchy! said...

can't advise on any of the sexy stuff... yet. but how about an original torchy photo print?

torchy!

Mr McCabbage said...

15 adds up to 6, and he's a Cancerian. Look for something homely and sentimental. Perhaps a set of cheap oil paints (not acrylics) with an extra tube "titanium white", firm brushes, some small canvasses, and solvent - ask an art shop.

Mr McCabbage said...

Other options - fascinating book The Wild Boys by William S. Burroughs. Or a traditional tin of Mozartkugeln - chocolate balls with marzipan inside and a picture of Mozart on each, imported from Austria.

AJCon89 said...

Gift cards ftw!

I dont know what he is into or not... but you can never go wrong imo with a gift card to a store he likes... i would rather get that because then i dont have to fake it if I didnt like the gift or if I already had it or whatever...

so thats my idea... hope it helps

Peace,
AJ

Anonymous said...

K.I.S.S.

If I were you, I would get him a birthday card and buy him drinks and get wasted with him.

Jason does not sound long-term.

Wet Kyle said...

I remember getting an erotic gift for a friend from the baking/confections part of the supermarket. It was liquid chocolate coating (not syrup) meant for ice cream cones. The label said "Gets hard instantly". It was a hit! LOL. Good luck!

EM said...

Buy him funky multi coloured underwear.

I buy that for my sister boyfriend for Christmas and he seems to like them, so it's an appropriate gift for anyone!! LOL

goleftatthefork said...

Traditional - a copy of his or your favorite book - hardbound of course, with maybe a nice hand written inscription inside the front cover ... could even be a great kids book

Novelty - two words - Ginch Gonch - and a matching pair for you

aron2631 said...

Avoid kinky-you'll be signalling that all you want is sex.

If you want to signal that you want more than "friends with benefits", as in, a real relationship, then get something romantic. Worry less about what he'd like to receive than on what you'd like to give: a rose, a romantic poem rolled up into a scroll, a bit of inexpensive jewelry, a night at a bed&breakfast.

Anonymous said...

it sounds like he doesn't know what he wants.. How do you know what to give a guy like that?? I would make it a generic gift until you figure him out. I wouldn't spend much... On a side note I wouldn't let this go on but so long. I can't believe he can't at least give you an idea on how he views gay relationships... Good luck.

Godfrey Off the Grid said...

Since the relationship is pretty up in the air so far, you don't want to get something super sentimental that might scare him off. Unless it's something you know he wants. Just don't spend a lot of money on him. I would agree with giftcard to a store that you know he likes. I also think the sex stuff would be fun for you and him and would probably be funny, but it might send the wrong signals. especially if he mentioned "fuck buddy".

Teddy Douglas said...

I have to argue with Godfrey. If you want romance from him, you have to let him know. If it scares him off, it wasn't meant to be. Better than getting hurt when he dumps you later on. On the other hand, that openness might be just the thing that allows the relationship to progress so you aren't just hanging there wondering what you have.