Sunday, May 3, 2009

Prince Charming

I've been feeling pretty lonely lately. I have all my friends and they're all great. But it's just not the same as having someone to be close with. Someone to cuddle with, to snuggle with, to hold, to kiss. I want someone that I can have a relationship with. I just don't know if it's ever going to happen for me. Going online to find people is just ridiculously stupid. It hasn't worked. And it won't work. I go out and I feel like noone even gives me a second look. It's pretty discouraging.

I know that many of you have given me advice on this... get myself out there. Volunteer somewhere. But will it really work? Will I find someone? If noone ever gives me a second look, why would they suddenly give me a second look there? I just don't know....

When will I find my Prince Charming?

9 comments:

AJCon89 said...

When I move to LA... :-P

Love you...

Peace,
AJ

Aek said...

Hey man, I understand how you feel. It's kind of depressing when people you know are getting engaged and married, and you're not even at step one of dating!

Sigh. :( *Hugs*

naturgesetz said...

The thing is, you can't expect love at first sight. It happens sometimes, but not always. So you need to be in situations where they don't have to give you that "second look" on the spot right after the first one. What you want is situations where they keep coming in contact with you, gradually getting to know you, so eventually they say to themselves, "That Doug is a pretty good guy, and not bad-looking. Maybe I should get to know him better." But that takes time and patience. We Americans tend to be too impatient; we give up if we don't get instant results.

aron2631 said...

It's hard to explain, but there is a certain karma to this, I think. It'll happen precisely when you are actually ready for it to happen.

I went for years asking the same questions, thinking that I was open to a relationship, when in reality, I was not. I asked the questions you asked like, "why doesn't anybody give me that second look?" or "why doesn't anybody ask me out?" ... but I wasn't giving anyone else the second look, and I wasn't asking anyone out.

I thought to myself, "this will never happen..." and every moment I thought that, it didn't.

Then something mysterious in me changed. Suddenly, somehow, I was really ready for a relationship. It wasn't the desperately lonely kind of ready, but a grounded and centered kind of ready. I started asking people out, and I pursued the people I thought might be interesting. The second man I met is still the man I am with 7 years later.

Anonymous said...

Sometimes it happens when your not trying hard to make it happen. I was partnered for three years. He broke it off. I didn't think I'd every get over it. Been single now for three years. Have met some nice guys, but nothing long term. I resigned myself to being single forever. I met a fellow at church a while ago. Today we were talking at coffee and as we were saying goodbye he told me he thought we should get to know each other better. He also told me he thinks I'm cute and sweet. He is as well. We exchanged phone numbers and are going out to dinner Wednesday. We gave each other a hug and kiss. I don't know how things will turn out, but I'm fairly excited. Perhaps he'll be my Prince Charming. Yours will come along when you least expect him. Hugs, George

backekuchen said...

Aron is right on. People come into our lives for a reason that is not immediately known to us. Sometimes they become and remain good friends, sometimes they are only like "ships passing in the night". We learn from each encounter.

Relationships take work. They are not 50/50 propositions, they are 100/100. Our priest prayed over a couple this morning celebrating a partnership of 16 years.

Hug and kiss.

Mr. HCI said...

Sounds trite but it'll happen when it happens.

:-/

Love at first sight is not something to expect. A person is so much more than just looks. Well, most are.

When I met my Phil, he was just a guy at my gym. He seemed nice enough so I figured "what the heck," when he asked me out a few days after we met. I'm not saying he's unattractive, mind you, just that seeing him that first time didn't make my heart flutter. It was a few weeks before that first date and it ended up being pretty wonderful. Before it was over, I knew he was the one; 15+ years later, I'm certain I was right (he's in the other room watching TV while I type this).

Barry said...

"Going online to find people is just ridiculously stupid."

I don't believe that :S

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